Who do you want to be?
This is a game… no right or wrong answer… just imagine you’re a kid looking in your dress up box finding an outfit to put on… a ballerina, firefighter, doctor, teacher…who are you? what costume are you trying to find in the box?
Its never too late, we are never too old or young…the box is always there waiting for your imagination to dip into the box and try things on for size.
Nothing is permanent.. remember that… we change constantly.. everyday, just like our thoughts, just like our breathe, just like the clouds in the sky, just like the leaves on the trees.
If we dont like the outfit we chose… we can take it off… we can change our outfit… perhaps we are bored of changing, bored of putting on different clothes… no problem… go downstairs, gets something to eat, play outside, talk to your friends… do something else…
then in the betweens of your day, when you are suddenly inspired… run upstairs with all your might back to the attic of make-believe… and pick up that outfit… put it on for size.
What we dont like, or what doesn’t work, we can use as the guidance of what we would prefer…how we would change our next outfit…until we find the one that feels just right… or perhaps there are a variety of ones that work…regardless…nothing was a mistake, nothing was a failure— it all helped us to realize what we want to put on next….
Perhaps life could be as simple as that… perhaps…. If we just follow our feeling like….no this one itches i prefer that one… or no, i want puffier sleeves on my dress, or a different hat and shoes… and we make those changes… we might not feel so stagnant and stuck… in fact… we might actually figure out and trust that when we feel something, and it makes us change something… it might not be because the world is against us and wants us to loose and let go of all we love want and care about…but rather its guiding us to the things that our hearts true want to experience.. perhaps greater joys, fantasies, magic…
Perhaps our feelings are the words and guidance of our hearts (ps. The heart has brain cells…look it up;)
Writing this post made me remember a time when i was little.
My sister and I would play make believe in the basement.
My question… everyday we played was…”sister….what do I be?”
Her response was always something i didn’t want to be like …”you will be the man, or the servant, or the ugly duckling…
My response was always…”NOOO! i want to be the princess! ” or the good fairy or the kind beautiful lady, or the Mom…
Now reflecting on this interaction… i realized some amazing information…. Even as a child, i needed external validation for my wishes and dreams….
Now reflecting back, i always knew who i wanted to be ( the princess, the good fairy…not the father or the evil woman )…. but i always asked sneakily or innocently HOPING that one day, my sister will externally validate, confirm, enable me, allow me, give me the position, the role, the permission, the acceptance… of being who i actually wanted to be….but guess what… that never happened!!
We can bring this back into our real life scenarios ….We actually know what we want !!…. i knew that i wanted to be the princess… but i never forwardly stated it…i wanted to be given it. BUT NO ONE GAVE IT TO ME!….
It is EMPOWERING to know that we do actually know what we want… we just need to be BRAVE and WILLING to admit to what it is we want…who it is we want to be… even if we dont get that external validation for it (especially from those who we love and want support from the most )….
I think ill stop there…but here are some nice priming questions to think about…to trigger our imaginations… and figure out what happens… go along with the first answer that pops into your head as you read the questions… see what kind of picture is created 🙂
Play the Game !
Have you ever asked yourself who do i want to be ? What does he/she look like? what does he/she do ? where do you live? what does you home look like? whats in your bedroom? what do you display in your home that brings your joy? whats the environment like outside when you look out the window? What are you wearing? whats your hair look like? how does your body feel? what are you thinking about? what are you grateful for? What will you do latter that day? who are your friends? What do you do for a living? How do you interact with people everyday? What do you eat in the morning? what do you do at night ?
IM GOING TO BE THE GUINi PIG AND SHOW YOU MY ANSWERS ( NOTE: these are the first answers that came up in my head…they can change as fast as i write them down…AKA…subject to change ! lol )
Have you ever asked yourself who do i want to be ?- actress movie star
What does he/she look like?- she’s beautiful
what does he/she do ? – she plays music sings and acts
where do you live? in a big mansion
what does you home look like?- its soft and beautiful and lots of light
whats in your bedroom?- big black grand piano and big white bed with a canapé
what do you display in your home that brings your joy?- music, instruments, paintings of sacred geometry, curtains, soft candles incense
whats the environment like outside when you look out the window? – big vast green, plants, mountains sky, amazing view, stars, land, growth
What are you wearing?- white long silk nighty beautiful and comfort …its summer
whats your hair look like? Long black, curly beautiful
how does your body feel? – song powerful good connected, pregnant, fierce, peaceful, anticipating, excited, joyful grateful
what are you thinking about?- my house my family my husband, my child, my life, love,connection to earth, my career, my passions, my gratitude for my house
what are you grateful for? – my house husband child body grace bravery friends family environment the earth my car my instruments my career my health my adventures
What will you do latter that day? – go to perform outside visit friends at a bonfire eat and sing and laugh and dance outside around the fire
who are your friends? – awesome great people laughing love to do things have fun enjoy talk dance play music, share stories, perform meet people who write music write books scientists, teachers, leaders, all kinds of people , places, cultures
What do you do for a living? – i knit, i bring people to life with love and music, inspire, write, counsel and heal people, ride on horses, teach dance class, yoga instructor, and tai-chi master !! hahah
How do you interact with people everyday?- kind honest, strait forward, assertive, respect, healthy boundaries, love, i see light in their eyes first, bravery, wholeness
What do you eat in the morning? – cereal and milk…. orange juice and strawberries…chocolate and bread, butter, toast, oranges, bananas, waffles with chocolate HOT, juice, lemon water,
what do you do at night ? – i play, i have fun, go on hikes and adventures, walk on the beach, shop eat dance have fun perform watch concerts, make music, write, watch movies, sit by the fire, pet my cat, love my dog, play with my horse
*** FOOTNOTES: so as i was writing this i started second guessing it and being like…. oh shit i dont want to be pregnant or no i should eat healthier….. and this started interfering with what the little child wanted inside… and the little child wanted to eat chocolate waffles over smoothies, and apparently be pregnant! …so as you are doing this exercise… just let the answers flow out.. have fun with it ! … and REMEMBER— the is just one scenario… there are a billion we can chose..and in every moment we can tweak our lives 🙂