I was in the car today driving home from work and “No Air” by Chris Brown and Jordin Sparks came on my old yet handy dandy iPod.
A thought came to me as i felt the vibrations of the song.
When difficult things happen to us such as a a heartbreak, a loved one passes, a layoff at work, a bad test grade, a fight with a friend, a situation in which something happens to our heart that makes it hurt… we feel sad.
Eventually to heal from this sadness we go through a bunch of emotions such as anger, revenge, desperation, denial, peace, compassion, love, and it continues, sometimes in a cycle or two.
I personally have experienced a few heartbreaks and sad times, and i’ve grown (with lots of dedicated work and consistent maintenance) to understand, forgive, and let go. However I realized today there is one more ingredient left… and this comes after the fact (in my opinion) and that last ingredient is acknowledgement.
I realized as i was listening to this song filled with a type of sadness, a hurt, a passion, a feeling of the heart, that one thing that is so important for us humans to mentally close and understand our experiences is acknowledge- like a crying baby, we comfort, we don’t condemn.